tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5384525667719730426.post4135942194539693339..comments2024-03-14T05:05:59.639-07:00Comments on For The Love Of Porn, Prostitution, and Pussy: Am I A SLUT? Slut slut slut!!!AdvocateGrrrlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09567298562861217146noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5384525667719730426.post-89752407167091547242013-04-21T20:47:37.644-07:002013-04-21T20:47:37.644-07:00The way that I've defined "slut" for...The way that I've defined "slut" for myself is a girl/guy who has sexual relations with many guys/girls, but doesn't expect the same pleasure back. For example, a girl who gives a random guy head, but doesn't expect anything in return, is probably a slut, (I didn't use a guy as an example because generally, as women, we are taught to "please" our man, which makes us more likely to expect little in return. If you don't believe me, just pick up an issue of Cosmo. I swear to god I'm sick of spontaneous blow jobs...) I think that having sex with different people is okay, so long as you're having just as many orgasms as your partner.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17222093769555086522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5384525667719730426.post-10151329447565981512012-07-14T08:12:07.361-07:002012-07-14T08:12:07.361-07:00You may take issues with all these definitions, bu...You may take issues with all these definitions, but between them they represent how most people feel and use the word. Including me.<br /><br />And I'm sure you're intelligent enough to understand point #1 without it needing greater elaboration. The giant issue of gender hypocrisy when it comes to behaviour.wishnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5384525667719730426.post-7936243046733651312012-05-01T20:05:02.131-07:002012-05-01T20:05:02.131-07:00To clarify a bit further, what I mean is that whil...To clarify a bit further, what I mean is that while that definition may sound clever, it stigmatizes women who have made a different sexual choice. It stigmatizes those who choose to abstain from sex for any reason (either for a time or altogether) as being prudes who are not in touch with their sexuality, dislike sex, and/or don't find it pleasurable. There are many reasons why women make the sexual choices they do, and not everyone who chooses to restrain their desires is doing so out of disdain for sex.Kristen Campbellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08883682106440132831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5384525667719730426.post-80175321413050960962012-05-01T19:48:13.061-07:002012-05-01T19:48:13.061-07:00The 43% unemployment rate was inaccurate not sure ...The 43% unemployment rate was inaccurate not sure what I was supposed to type but that wasn't it. Its at about 12.1% which is still high. <br />I just think there are bigger fish to fry for the greater good of all mankind.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5384525667719730426.post-80904803075778230812012-05-01T19:02:46.202-07:002012-05-01T19:02:46.202-07:00One of my concerns with that definition is the ass...One of my concerns with that definition is the assumption that pleasure is always good for you. Our culture perpetuates the myth that if we just give ourselves everything we want, we will be happy. But often times, that happiness is elusive, either because some things are harmful in the wrong context (like eating too much food, even if the food is not bad in and of itself) or because once we get what we thought we wanted, we start thinking it would take "more" to make us actually "happy" (like money). I think this can apply to the pursuit of wealth, the desire to be popular, job status, food, and yes, even sex. I think there are plenty of people who think sex is nice and love the pleasure it brings but would put certain constraints on it, such as wearing protection, having a partner tested for STD's, or even waiting until marriage. Does that mean they hate sex? Personally, I don't think so. Consider the marshmallow test on delayed gratification. Restraint is not always a bad thing: <br />http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stanford_marshmallow_experimentKristen Campbellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08883682106440132831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5384525667719730426.post-35854478287831100092012-05-01T18:52:12.566-07:002012-05-01T18:52:12.566-07:00Since when is the unemployment rate 43%? I don'...Since when is the unemployment rate 43%? I don't think you're talking about the same country here. I agree with you that these are important issues, but making up statistics is just silly. That, or please say what country you're from? Also, I definitely don't agree with a lot of the points made on this blog, but I can understand that one woman is trying to stand up for one thing she believes in. I hope you do the same regarding the issues you listed.Kristen Campbellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08883682106440132831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5384525667719730426.post-65116378567655099592012-05-01T12:34:45.392-07:002012-05-01T12:34:45.392-07:00Anonymous- if those are the issues that you're...Anonymous- if those are the issues that you're interested in, then perhaps you should tackle them. I spend my resources and brains working towards the causes that are important to me. Not to say that the issues that you mentioned aren't important to me, but there's only so much that one woman can do. I am not defending people's stupidity and irresponsible actions. Would you like to know what I'm actually doing? Long story short- the topic of my dissertation is on how different forms of sexism contribute to rape myths about females in the sex industry. If you are unfamiliar with research on rape myths, you can check out Burt (1980) as a start. Women who are considered "sluts" are often the target of rape myths, and this contributes to a culture of violence against women. This is what I am concerned with. That is the topic of my research, and this blog is just a side project, and a way for me to educate others about the harmful effects of "slut-shaming." So yes, while I am concerned with the homeless and the jobless, I am also concerned with women who are targets of stigma, abuse, and rape.AdvocateGrrrlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09567298562861217146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5384525667719730426.post-16117787655514193162012-03-28T21:39:04.171-07:002012-03-28T21:39:04.171-07:00Mona- I like that too. "the radical propositi...Mona- I like that too. "the radical proposition" haha brilliant!! xoxoAdvocateGrrrlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09567298562861217146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5384525667719730426.post-27585059951574240252012-03-28T04:58:07.400-07:002012-03-28T04:58:07.400-07:00I like the definition of a slut in The Ethical Slu...I like the definition of a slut in The Ethical Slut by Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton. "A slut is a person of either gender who lives their life according to the radical proposition that sex is nice and pleasure is good for you."Monanoreply@blogger.com