tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5384525667719730426.post1333976107826331708..comments2024-03-14T05:05:59.639-07:00Comments on For The Love Of Porn, Prostitution, and Pussy: Don't You Feel Used? Guest Post # 2AdvocateGrrrlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09567298562861217146noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5384525667719730426.post-76288182838900796022012-03-24T20:47:17.221-07:002012-03-24T20:47:17.221-07:00thank you! Glad you enjoyed my writing :)thank you! Glad you enjoyed my writing :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5384525667719730426.post-7790985665169255292012-03-24T10:48:21.577-07:002012-03-24T10:48:21.577-07:00Wow I LOVE thi- "My life experiences broke m...Wow I LOVE thi- "My life experiences broke me, the trade made me strong and understand that humans are complex and intricate creatures... there isn't black and white just a lot of different stories and somehow we all share heart-break and disappointments, it shapes who we are and it defines our character how we deal with that."AdvocateGrrrlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09567298562861217146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5384525667719730426.post-71632715286579155752012-03-24T10:47:14.362-07:002012-03-24T10:47:14.362-07:00Darkrayne- I'm really happy that you enjoy the...Darkrayne- I'm really happy that you enjoy the blog. Not sure if you're a member of the private facebook group that's associated with the blog, but feel free to join if you'd like. It's a safe supportive online community, all sex workers and/or advocates. Also, thank you for sharing your personal experience. If you'd like me to create a guest post that shares this experience, let me know. I think it's important for sex worker's voices to be heard- for people to know that sex work is different for everyone, some people love it and some people hate it (like any job). There's the good and the bad, but at the end of the day, we all deserve respect.AdvocateGrrrlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09567298562861217146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5384525667719730426.post-80752333091026026632012-03-24T10:10:46.563-07:002012-03-24T10:10:46.563-07:00As a former sex worker I agree the most with the a...As a former sex worker I agree the most with the above comments Matt and feel that those really resonate for me. And choice or no choice, the fact remains there is a systemic and gender imbalance in the world that makes it easier for many girls like me to make those same choices. I am not ashamed of what I did, I do not want to forget what has made me who I am today and I am NOT defined by what I did for a living (god knows I've had my fair share of crappy jobs that I wouldn't want to be defined by). <br /><br />Thanks for the blog I appreciate all you write and many of the posts reflect a lot of my own thoughts ie "rape as an occupational hazard" like REALLY? I once had an ex tell me "I can't believe your not ashamed of yourself, it's disgusting you broke up families".. really? I didn't go knocking door to door last time I checked :) I worked in the industry on and off for 12 years, a lot of crap happened during those years but the truth is FAR worse crap and trauma happened to me BEFORE I was in the trade and while I wasn't working. That being said I had a lot of trauma through the trade as well.. <br /><br />After 12 years I just burnt out. Now 4 years post-"retirement" I am trying to pick up the pieces that is the sum of my whole life and I realize how much my trauma has shaped me.. if anything the sex trade taught me to take some of that power back, to not take crap and to know what happens to me does NOT define who I am. I am a strong, tough, survivor who is also loving and giving... the trade taught me some of that and in a weird way it helped me realize that despite everything, I too deserve love, respect and I am an honorable/moral person. My life experiences broke me, the trade made me strong and understand that humans are complex and intricate creatures... there isn't black and white just a lot of different stories and somehow we all share heart-break and disappointments, it shapes who we are and it defines our character how we deal with that. <br /><br />I have learned to embrace the light of myself while honoring the dark parts, we all live somewhere in between both ~ DarkrayneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5384525667719730426.post-31125038749326216712012-03-20T18:46:54.053-07:002012-03-20T18:46:54.053-07:00Thanks, Anon, for sharing your experience. I got n...Thanks, Anon, for sharing your experience. I got nothing to add really, but I wanted to highlight which statements I found the most interesting.<br /><br />"The worst thing about working as a sex worker was not how I felt about it, it was other people felt about it."<br /><br />"I have felt more used by boyfriends - which society says is ok - than I ever did [by] my clients." <br /><br />"I have felt more used, degraded and under-appreciated in mainstream employment than I ever did a sex worker."<br /><br />Well put.Matthttp://www.researchprojectkorea.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5384525667719730426.post-8312211302896539132012-03-17T19:26:07.602-07:002012-03-17T19:26:07.602-07:00Yes, I agree with the above post. As a therapist, ...Yes, I agree with the above post. As a therapist, I don't feel comfortable with the idea of touch in therapy. I'm not really sure what that could add, although I foresee many problems that could arise. I fully support sex workers, sex surrogates, etc. But IMO, the job of a therapist is different. Sex and touch would create a power differential, cross boundaries, and polute the therapeutic relationship. Also, think of the implications if one person falls for the other...and the involvement of insurance companies, etc. I'd probably quit the field if that became common practice. Btw, this is Page but I'm doing this from my iPhone and it won't let me sign in.AdvocateGrrrlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09567298562861217146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5384525667719730426.post-42011908027689039572012-03-17T18:34:45.233-07:002012-03-17T18:34:45.233-07:00Thank you so much for sharing that information, An...Thank you so much for sharing that information, Anon. I really appreciate it and your voice has been heard. <br /><br />Also, to the Anon in the comment, I agree with you, but the issue of touch can be hotly debated; sadly, there are gender and potential sexual issues that can enter into the process (for example, as a male heterosexual therapist, what does physical contact with a heterosexual female ct communicate?). <br /><br />Many therapists/in training can feel very deeply for their clients, but there is always the fear that such an act would communicate the wrong message.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5384525667719730426.post-49306312695127124982012-03-17T00:01:10.509-07:002012-03-17T00:01:10.509-07:00There is no shame in stepping into your own power ...There is no shame in stepping into your own power as a woman and choosing to be of service as a sex worker. The culture is afraid of women's sexual power so much so that the GOP wants to strip women of their rights. <br /><br />I remember once when I was feeling depressed and I could not afford to pay for someones attention, a woman like you gave me a life giving hug, human to human. No sex but just was there to allow me to cry and let go of the pain I was carrying. I wonder how often someone decided not to kill themself because someone like you gave them some needed attention. <br />It is unfortunate that legit therapists are not allowed to use touch as therapy and certainly not sex.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com